Will my child or the caller know if I block a number from their phone?

1994Box wrote:

Without making too many details…..My child is in communication with another, "cool" child, who is talking her into doing….less than savory or legal things. I know there's only so much I can do, but I'd like to block this other child's number using the Family Allowances, as I have very nearly had it at this point. 

 

I'm afraid of there being a blow-up if she receives some kind of notification that a number has been blocked. I would rather she just not know, and for the person calling/texting to also not know. Even if it's only a temporary fix, allow them to think that one has ghosted the other. 

If I block this number from this phone, is that it? I know it sounds silly, but I'm paranoid since I don't want any more of this drama. There's been enough of it already.

Hey there! To get back to the direct question that was asked, I want to provide some direct answers about the Family Allowance feature itself. Your kid should not get a notification when you add that other kid's number to the Never Allowed list. 

One benefit of blocking the number on Family Allowances is that the other child cannot leave your child a voicemail. Whenever that other child calls yours, they will hear a message "The person you have dialed is not able to receive calls at this time." If they try to text your kid, the message back will be something along the lines of "Your text cannot be sent at this time." When your child tries to call or text them, I think the message is the same. 

This sounds like an extremely stressful situation. I hope that you are able to find something that works for you and your child. 

1994Box wrote:

That wasn't my question. I've already changed it once. If you'd like to pay for it, let me know, since you seem to have greater awareness of the situation than I myself do. 

 

I don't understand how someone could look at this and think now's a time to start an argument with a frustrated parent. I have to do everything that I possibly can. Either help, or leave this be.

I see no attitude.  He is saying it wouldn't matter if you blocked it.  It is obvious when a person is blocked.  A block only works 1 way unless you block it using parental controls.  IF that happens chances are they'll use a data specific application which would defeat the purpose unless you disable data at the account level. Even then you have to watch when he is on the computer as you can make and send messages through the internet without a phone these days as well.  

It is pretty easy to figure out when someone has blocked another.  If the person you are blocking tries to call the number they are clocked, they will get a response that upon looking up, will let them know they have been blocked.  If these kids see each other, it's going to come up.  Also, blocking doesn't affect things like Facebook Messenger, SnapChat, kik, and all of the many other things kids use to communicate.  

Personally, I believe the best way is always to speak to your child and discuss the situation with them.  Trying to be sneaky about the situation is only going to cause more issues than sitting down with them and explaining what the issue is and why you don't want them to communicate with this person.  

1994Box wrote:

I’m having to pick my kid, who has never, ever been like this before, up from the cops … Should I let my daughter chat up with someone she wants to impress by stealing and vandalism?

 

I don't understand how someone could look at this and think now's a time to start an argument with a frustrated parent. I have to do everything that I possibly can.

What an attitude.

Sorry, but sounds like a parenting problem.  Give strict punishment, take away the phone, or other disciplinary methods.

Train up a child in the way they should go, and when they are old they will not depart from it. (Prov 22:6)

That wasn't my question. I've already changed it once. If you'd like to pay for it, let me know, since you seem to have greater awareness of the situation than I myself do. 

I don't understand how someone could look at this and think now's a time to start an argument with a frustrated parent. I have to do everything that I possibly can. Either help, or leave this be.

Change the phone number is the easiest thing to do.

Nuevamente.
 

That doesn’t answer my question.

Unless you CAN answer my question, please stop. You're not making this any easier. I'm having to pick my kid, who has never, ever been like this before, up from the cops after and you're acting like I shouldn't even try to make it harder for this person to contact her. 
 

Should I just give up? Is that your solution? Should I let my daughter chat up with someone she wants to impress by stealing and vandalism? I'm keeping as close tabs as I can, and you're contributing nothing. Either back off or say something constructive.  

I know but kids figure things out. They're more tech savvy than the previous generation .

This is an EXTREMELY stressful time and I'm doing everything I can. Getting responses about how it's all pointless isn't exactly helping.

That wasn’t my question.